My So Connecticut Life: How I Turn Dark Fall Evenings Into My Favorite Time to Be at Home
As the evenings get longer, my family's routine starts to change, and this week we've had the first cozy night in of the season
There’s a point every fall when, as I’m making dinner, I look up at the kitchen window and realize the sun is already setting. I usually notice because, at this time of year, it starts shining directly in my eyes, so it’s hard to miss. It happens right around 6:30 p.m., and it’s a confirmation of a new routine.
During the warmer months, our evenings often happen outside. We make dinner on the grill, eat on the patio, and let the kids play until dark, which conveniently coincides with bedtime. But as the days get shorter and the first real chill sets in, we naturally start moving the end of the day indoors.
As much as I love the coziness of this time of year (last week I wrote all about how I love adding extra layers to my home), I always find it a little melancholy when the days start getting shorter, especially knowing the clocks will soon change, and darkness will arrive even earlier. So instead of fighting it, I try to lean into the best parts of the fall season: warm lighting, music playing, and the kinds of dinners that make staying indoors feel indulgent instead of like a compromise.
Getting there doesn’t take much – just a few small tweaks to the existing routine.
Instead of the overhead lights, I use all the small lights in combination during the evening, even in the kitchen.
It starts with the lighting. As the sun goes down, I walk through the house, turning on lamps and sconces and lighting a candle or two. I avoid the 'big lights' whenever I can, since they tend to flatten the atmosphere.
Soft layered lighting is the single easiest way to make a house feel warmer and more inviting, which is why I have at least one lamp in almost every room, including the kitchen. Once it’s dark outside, even the fairly mundane task of making dinner feels atmospheric in soft lighting (though I do flick on the under-cabinet lights if I’m chopping or peeling something – safety first).
Even my kitchen gets a few lamps dotted around at this time of year to add a softer glow to the countertops.
The next thing I do is turn on music. In the summer, we often have music playing outdoors, too, but it tends to be more upbeat and fast-paced. In the fall and winter, we turn to a more relaxed, background style of music. My husband loves to play jazz or Frank Sinatra, which makes it feel like we’re in some sort of Nancy Meyers movie. My kids actually call all of this music 'Christmas music' because they associate it with the fall and holiday season.
Dutch oven bread is literally just yeast, water, flour and salt, but it adds such a home-y touch to any dinner.
Once the mood is set, I start making dinner, something that also shifts with this time of year. Like most people, I trade out summer staples like grilled chicken and pasta salads for warmer, richer meals that suit the season. Soup is my go-to for fall, and this year, I started with French onion soup. It’s simple, but because it simmers for a while, it fills the house with that unmistakably cozy smell of onions, broth, and herbs.
Instead of serving it with a baguette, I make an easy Dutch oven bread, then slice it, top it with Gruyère, and lightly broil it. If it’s a weekend, I usually add a glass of red wine, and at that point, it’s officially one of my favorite fall meals.
The dining room, which doesn't see much action over the summer, comes into its own again in the fall.
We also start to shift the spaces in our home we use on dark evenings, though this is more of a natural gravitation than a conscious shift. In summer, as I mentioned, we often eat outside or at the table in the breakfast nook. But once the weather turns, we start eating in the dining room again.
We host a lot of holidays there, so I think my family associates it with that time of year. It also feels more enveloping after dark than our breakfast nook – a little moodier, a little more intimate – especially with candles lit and dinner on the table.
The living room, being the only room with a wood-burning fire, also gets more use at this time of year.
The other room we start spending more time in is our living room. My husband likes to call it our 'winter room,' and he’s not wrong. We all prefer the sofa in the family room, so that’s where we tend to spend time when it’s warm. But the living room has the only wood-burning fireplace in the house, which is enough to make us choose it over the more comfortable sofa once it gets cold.
A roaring fire and a classic 90s movie (Casper, in this case) is the best way to spend a chilly evening.
We have a gas fireplace in the family room that we use during the week, but if we have more time, especially on weekends or when friends and family are over, we always prefer a 'real' fire. I love the whole ritual of it: bringing in the wood, getting the fire going, and especially the smoky smell – it’s a smell that I instantly associate with warm childhood memories of holidays and ski trips, and I love that it’s imprinting those same associations for my own kids.
None of this requires much. The lamps were already there, the music takes thirty seconds, and the soup simmers on its own. The house hasn’t changed – the season has just given you a reason to use it differently.
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I have spent more than a decade writing about homes and interiors, but My So-Connecticut Life is personal. I live in a 1937 Colonial in the small town of Easton, Connecticut, with my husband, three children, and our dog. Seven years in this house have taught me which farm stands and vintage markets are worth the detour, how to set a table without stress, and the small routines that make a home feel like home. Every other Saturday, I’ll share a glimpse into life in Connecticut – where I’m shopping, how I’m hosting, and the seasonal rituals that shape the year.
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