Some home design decisions simply don’t matter – here’s what to stop stressing over and where to focus your energy instead

Interior designer Tineke Triggs is one of Homes & Gardens' new Editors-At-Large for By Design, sharing her thoughts on decor. See the rest of her articles here.

As a designer, I’ve learned that the details homeowners lose sleep over are rarely the ones that truly shape how a home feels or functions. People will agonize over the perfect shade of white for their trim but forget to consider the mood they want to create when they walk through the door. They’ll debate grout colors for weeks, yet treat lighting as an afterthought.

So here’s a gentle design PSA: some choices simply don’t matter as much as you think. Letting go of those micro-stresses creates space to focus on what actually transforms your home. Here’s what to stop fixating on – and where that energy is better spent when it comes to your home decor ideas.

Don’t worry about matching metal finishes

I promise your home won’t fall apart if your cabinet hardware doesn’t match your faucet. In fact, mixing metals – like pairing a matte black handle with a brass sconce and a polished nickel faucet – creates depth and character that a perfectly matched set could never achieve.

Do this instead: Focus on how your finishes relate in tone and texture. Are they warm or cool? Brushed or polished? When layered thoughtfully, a subtle mix of metals feels intentional, collected, and uniquely yours – more like a home, less like a showroom.

Don’t worry about picking the perfect paint color on the first try

Paint is one of the easiest design elements to change, so please – don’t lose sleep over a fan deck. Yes, room color ideas matter, but agonizing over 19 shades of greige will drain your creative energy faster than a harsh LED bulb.

Do this instead: Choose two or three favorites, test them directly on your wall, and observe how they look throughout the day. Then, trust your instincts. If it doesn’t feel right later, remember – it’s just a gallon of paint, not a lifelong commitment.

Don’t worry about what other people will think

Designing your home to please someone else’s Pinterest board is the quickest path to design regret. Just because something is trending doesn’t mean it belongs in your space – and just because it’s not trending doesn’t mean it shouldn’t.

Do this instead: Create a home that feels unmistakably you – one that reflects your lifestyle, your memories, and your unique sense of comfort, drama, or humor. The most memorable interiors are never the most on-trend – they’re the most authentic.

Don’t worry about getting everything done at once

A home should grow with you. Rushing to decorate every room on a tight timeline often leads to choices you’ll later regret – and unnecessary spending.

Do this instead: Focus on high-impact spaces first, like the living room or bedroom, and let the rest of the home reveal itself over time. Give yourself space to live in it before filling every corner.

Do consider lighting, layout, and layers

These three elements are truly worth your attention: the right lighting, a smart floor plan, and layered textures and tones – rugs, pillows, curtains, and art – that transform a house into a home.

Design should bring joy, not stress. Stop worrying about the small stuff and focus on what matters. You can always repaint walls or swap a sconce, but you can’t replicate the feeling of a home that reflects your spirit, story, and personal style.