So you're finally an adult now – here’s what designers say you need in your home by 30

The notion of dropping a few hundred dollars on bedding at 21 sounds preposterous. But by 30? Suddenly, it makes sense. We spend a third of our lives in bed, and at some point, that fact starts to matter. ‘This is a big one for me because proper bedding can really have a profound effect on your quality of sleep,’ says interior designer Grey Joyner of Grey Joyner Interiors. Her advice: invest in soft, high-thread-count sheets, quality pillows, a proper duvet insert, and a duvet cover that actually fits. Coyuchi’s organic cotton sateen set checks all the boxes, available in a range of calming colorways.

Lore Group creative director Jacu Strauss says the bedside table deserves a little more attention. ‘Good lighting and a nice decanter or carafe for water goes a long way,’ he says. Look for a table lamp (ideally, cordless) and pair it with a sculptural carafe set like this one from Latitude Run, which is polished enough for a thirty-something, but priced for your mid-twenties self. Consider midnight field trips to the kitchen officially over.

Designer Franky Rousell, founder and CEO of Jolie, swears by an oversized Italian- or Portuguese-style sharing bowl. ‘It’s heaven,’ she says – a simple way to elevate shared sides or salads when hosting. While she prefers to thrift hers on holiday, she specifically called out this hand-finished Zsuzsanna Nyul platter, made with 250-year-old Hungarian indigo block-printing techniques. It’s the kind of thing your dinner guests will ask about, and the kind of story a 30-something dinner host should have.

‘Dine and entertain like an adult,’ says Lore Group’s Jacu Strauss. That means investing in proper linen napkins – not just for guests, but for yourself. The only thing more grown-up than a crisp set? Ones embroidered with your name, initials, or a few words that feel like you. Bessette’s California-made linens are stitched to perfection and already loved by tastemakers like Devin Brugman and Cynthia Rowley. You're next.

‘The same goes for good silverware,’ Jacu adds. He’s partial to vintage silver or silver-plated sets, but if you’re not ready to trawl the local fleas, this Crate & Barrel cultery offers a convincing nod. The bamboo-style handles feel Miami circa 1960, while the monochrome stainless steel keeps them current – and, importantly, sturdy enough to last through many at-home meals to come.

On the topic of little luxuries: sure, a heated towel rack sounds like an impossible indulgence, but this bathroom idea – recommended by Jolie’s Franky Rousell – is wildly easy to install and more affordable than you might think. Mount one to the wall and thank yourself every time you skip the cold post-shower shock. 

You don’t need a full bar cart to feel like an adult, but a designated spot for glassware, ice, and citrus wedges helps. Grey Joyner recommends carving out a little space – even just a lacquer tray – for drinks, alcoholic or not. West Elm’s Harlan collection nails the I'm-a-grown-up-but-still-a-lot-of-fun look. Soulful, sculptural, and customizable, take your pick of everything from the shaker ($40) to the full tray-and-tools ensemble to fill any gaps in your barware collection.

Your sofa, at this point, should not be testing your loyalty. ‘No need to hang onto that college futon,’ quips Grey. You’re old enough to want something soft and sinkable – the kind of couch ‘you can keep FOREVER,’ she muses. If new is out of budget, estate sale + reupholstery is a reliable hack. But if you are buying new, this curved camel one from CB2 looks twice its price.

According to Lore Group’s Jacu Strauss, ‘It’s time to take a more serious interest in art and furniture.’ No need to become a collector overnight, but be intentional. ‘Whatever art you’re interested in – original art, vintage prints, menus from a great restaurant experience, photos from your travels – simply framing it in a good quality frame, with matting if applicable, instantly elevates it and shows that you care about the details,’ adds Grey Joyner. Case in point: this Guy Bourdin photograph curated by AP8. It’s ready to go in an Italian chestnut wood frame and printed to gallery standards.

Stemware feels like a thirty-something cliché, but clichés exist for a reason. Eventually, you will need a proper set – whether for Tuesday wine or the dinner party mishap you didn’t plan for. ‘Even if you’re not a drinker, their form is elegant and enables you to host effortlessly,’ says Theresa Ory, founder of Theresa Ory Interiors. Fable’s shatter-resistant German crystal is dishwasher-safe, thin-rimmed, and timeless. Their starter bundle includes everything: coupes, flutes, and wine glasses, so you’re covered, whatever the evening calls for.

If you’ve been meaning to stop handing $6 to your local barista every morning, now’s the time. An espresso machine is the thirty-something flex that keeps on giving. ‘For the espresso snobs in your life, please keep one. We need you to understand that it’s not the same as coffee,’ Theresa insists. Coffee is simply caffeine; espresso's a ritual. This LINKChef machine is a fantastic entry-level foray, presenting nicely on the counter and bolstered by rave reviews.

Overhead lighting is a hard pass. ‘It’s not doing anyone any favors,’ says Grey Joyner. The upgrade is a statement table lamp – yes, even in the kitchen, according to Jolie’s Franky Rousell. She adores this one: a veined chocolate marble base, airy black linen shade, and just the right amount of visual weight. If not a lamp, go Grey says go layered: sconces, picture lights, and dimmer switches are what make a room feel ‘grown.’